1. Consider talking with a therapist
Professional support can help you process the complex emotions that come with divorce. Your confidential advocate will help you plan for and navigate challenges along the way.
2. Circle your wagons
Carefully cultivate a discreet support system of trusted family and close friends. This is crucial as you manage the affects of transition.
3. Gather financial statements
Gather current statements from assets, debts, income and expenses that you’re aware of. Include any memberships, reward points, and other perks that may be considered community assets. This information will be necessary when dividing your property and helpful when planning your financial future, post-divorce.
4. Review family law in your state
Understanding your rights is essential. It’s not about ‘winning’— be informed and approach the process with realistic expectations.
5. Consider co-parenting options
If you share minor children, begin to think about how shared custody could work for your family. A carefully thought-out plan is not only a legal requirement, it’s a roadmap for the future.
6. Preserve civility
Explore the advantages of mediation. Avoiding the protracted drama of litigation has many advantages — saves time, less drama, and preserves your financial resources for your future.
7. Organize your documents
Organize your legal and financial paperwork – wills, deeds, and tax returns. Compiling your information and consulting with professionals will provide you with clearer understanding of your overall financial well-being.
8. Talk with your partner
Talking with your spouse can ensure that you are on the same page and prevent surprises. If you have concerns about your spouse’s reaction to the conversation, consider involving a therapist, pastor or mediator.
9. Post-divorce dreaming
Dream of your life post-divorce. What part of you has been held back in your marriage? Make a dream board, brainstorming what the next chapter of your life could look like. Move forward with intention, a positive attitude, and good self-care.
10. Consult wise experts
Information is power. To plan for your future, build your network of skilled resources and strategically set yourself up for success. By consulting with a financial advisor, a tax expert, a real estate professional, and a divorce mediator, you are acquiring knowledge and taking charge of your situation. The rest of your life begins now!
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